Getting into the dating scene can be difficult, especially if you have been out of it for a while. One of the most nerve wracking aspects of dating is the idea of being rejected. It happens to every guy now and then, but it never gets any less unpleasant. Avoiding rejection is probably one of the main goals you have when seeking women to go out with, and there are some things you should keep in mind to avoid it as best as possible. It may sometimes seem arbitrary why women brush certain men off, but there is a method to the madness.
You’re Being Too Forward
If you are picking women up at bars or clubs or other crowded party areas, it’s highly likely that the woman you are trying to approach has also been approached by plenty of other men during the night. Some of the other guys may have gotten grabby with her or fed her overly blatant innuendos or pick-up lines in an attempt to get her attention. If you approach a woman and greet her with a sexually loaded compliment or a cheesy pick up line, chances are high that she is going to wind up snubbing you. She might not turn you away immediately, but she might give you a fake number or have her wing-woman come and interrupt the two of you so she can leave. The proper approach is to be direct but polite. Show your interest but do not force it on her, since she is probably approached by countless men who do just that all the time and she’s likely sick of it.
You’re Coming Off As Desperate
A major reason why women turn down men for seemingly no reason is because they are acting too desperate for her attention. Desperation is a major turn off for women, so you need to be careful not to come across as being too needy or desperate so that you don’t get brushed off. The best way to do this is to act slightly aloof, but not overly distant. If you hang on her every word and seem like you are just agreeing with whatever she says to keep the conversation going, she’s going to get the hint that you just want her to give you her number or go home with you. Whether or not this is true, and whether or not you feel desperate, you have to play it cool and act fairly calm about the situation.
It’s Just Not the Right Place or Time
The worst rejection is the kind that comes for apparently no reason, but unfortunately this will happen sometimes. It sucks, but sometimes women just aren’t interested in giving out their numbers or being friendly with guys while they’re out at the bar or club. Try not to take every rejection to heart because chances are it may just be a bad night for her. Dust yourself off and move on to the next woman!