First date awkwardness can strike even if you’re a veteran in the dating arena. Nerves can affect even the champions. Plus, it might not be you. Maybe she’s never met someone online before. Maybe she’s a gorgeous woman with the worst awkward laugh you’ve ever heard. When dealing with awkwardness on a first date, the problem might not always be you. The solution? Always can be. Try these three tips to break the ice and soothe her nerves and yours.
Tell a Joke
Making witty quips is a more exciting form of humor, but telling jokes is actually a good way to lower tension. They can be a little stale and boring, but memorizing a good joke before you go on your date means that you have something to fill up any gap with. Try to avoid the racier jokes (or at least save them for later). You don’t want to tell a joke that could backfire and make things even more awkward between you two. No, “My brother is priest,” situations here.
Of course, gage the emotion of the date. If you need to fill a void in the conversation and everything is fine, a snappy joke is just the thing to clear the air. If she’s upset by something, it’s best not to follow with a joke. She’s not in the mood to laugh. Awkwardness would just increase.
Don’t Talk Politics or Religion
Even if you think that the two of you have the same opinions, it’s really easy to go one step too far. One moment you’re laughing about those idiots in the government, and the next you make one crack about civil servants and it turns out that her mother has been a clerk in a government office for 20 years and she doesn’t think you’re as funny as you know you are.
Religion and politics can be strange gray areas for people. Things can go from light and fluffy to deadly serious in just a few sentences. You don’t know her well enough, so just agree that taxes are too high and leave it at that.
Don’t Talk about Other Women
Maybe you see a woman who really should not be wearing those jeans outside of the house. Maybe there’s nothing that this gorgeous beauty you’re chatting up has in common with that woman. But if you bring her up, she’s going to start to wonder if there’s anything you’re hiding about how she looks.
If you bring up your ex, you’ll look like you’re not over her. If you bring up your mother, you look like a momma’s boy. There’s just no way you can win if you talk about other women. Just cut your loses.
Some first date jitters are to be expected on both sides. But if you steer clear of these topics of conversation and always have a joke at the ready you can avoid the major pitfalls and smooth over any turbulence you may encounter.