First dates can be stressful for many reasons. You have to decide what to wear, what to say, where to go, and what to do. There are countless ways first dates can go wrong, so you’re probably feeling high-strung about the whole thing. On top of that, there’s also the question of how far you can take things on the first date. You don’t know if you should kiss her at the end of the night or not, and that’s without even wondering if she’ll sleep with you on the first date. Of course, this is different for every woman that you date, but if you play your cards right you should be able to gauge how far you can go.
Gauge Her Interest With Subtle Touches
This is a good way of telling how interested a woman is if you’re particularly good at reading body language, and it can also tell you how open she is to physical closeness on the first date. Try stroking her hand with your fingers and seeing how she reacts. Naturally if she pulls her hand away, you should back off and resign yourself to an uneventful date. If she doesn’t pull her hand away and her body language seems open, then she’s definitely into you and you can probably get a kiss at the end of the date, at the very least. If she closes herself off and looks away or hunches her shoulders, she’s uncomfortable and you may need to back off slightly, but don’t give up hope.
Asking Questions About Her Values
A more direct way of figuring out how far you can go with your first date is to ask her about her values. Women sometimes feel the need to be bound to an arbitrary set of dating rules, but it really depends on what the two of you are looking for. If it’s going to be a casual relationship, you probably have much more leeway. However, if she seems like she wants to get serious and have a long-term relationship, chances are that you won’t be getting that kiss at the end of the night. You certainly won’t be getting invited in to have an after-dinner drink with her, either. Having an open discussion about what you both want out of the conversation is the best way to determine how you should end your date.
Throwing Caution to the Wind
Sometimes you just need to let things go and give it a shot. If you’re not sure how far your date wants to go, just go with the flow and see where your chemistry takes you. If you have no real plans of pursuing a relationship with a woman, you might want to work up the courage to ask her directly how she wants to end the night and if she’d like to go home with you. Who knows, you might wind up being surprised by what happens!