Nerves get the best of everyone. Sometimes something just sounded better in your head, and then you put your foot in your mouth. It happens. But when it’s happening al the time, you have a toxic habit. If you want to get these ladies you need a silver tongue. If you’re laying down these bad habits, you’ll be lucky if the date lasts long enough for you to kiss her goodnight.
Don’t be a Story Topper
Does her story remind you of something totally hilarious and very similar that happened to you? Keep it to yourself. Even if it’s hilarious. Especially if it’s a better story than the one that she just told. Women like to talk, and they like to tell stories. And everyone hates having their story dwarfed by someone else’s immediately. To just bookmark that story to tell at a different time, and let the conversation go on. Being a story topper leads to resentment far out of proportion to the crime you’re actually committing. Don’t steal the thunder.
The Crime of “um….”
Nothing sounds tackier than stopping frequently to add “um” to a conversation. It sounds like you can’t even think to the end of a sentence. This is particularly unfair because almost everyone does it. Psychologically it’s just a filler sound, with no meaning. It shows you’re not done speaking. But it sounds bad to a lady’s sensitive ears. Take a few days before your date and make yourself conscious of it. If you have to, make yourself wait a second before you speak. That should give you lots of time to plan out what you’re going to say.
Spitting When Speaking
This almost needs no explanation. Say it, don’t spray it. If you have a naturally… wet mouth, try chewing crackers. Just make sure you don’t cover her with crumbs when you speak instead of spittle. For more severe cases, try to avoid drinking when you’re on a date. Only drink enough to keep yourself hydrated, and avoid anything with dairy. It promotes mucus promotion, including saliva.
Breath mints will also help, and they have the added bonus of keeping you fresh and pleasant all evening long.
“Be a good listener”
Maybe you have something so funny to say that you think you’ll explode if you don’t say it. Then you can say it. Otherwise? Keep it to yourself. Like story-topping, constantly interrupting tells a woman that you don’t really care what she has to say. If she doesn’t feel valued, you won’t be going any further with her that night. So swallow every urge to butt in (even if her story is really boring and you really want to talk about something else.) You’ll be glad you did.
These four common habits don’t make you a bad person, but they will make the ladies think twice about you. These habits can be tamed with a little thought and self-control. You’ll be amazed by how quickly you’ll see results when you back off these conversational mistakes.